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9.06.2012


Fashion is a funny thing. Some people follow the trends no matter what (hello anal bead I mean bubble necklace). Some people balk at the trends just because they don't want to look like everyone else (hello stupid blogger topknot thingy). And then some people think that "classics" which look good on very few, look good on them, too (hello horrid red lipstick).

And then. 

Then, there are people like me. Who dress for men. Who dress for the opposite sex. Who knows that men despise red lipstick and they love a nude lip. Who knows that men see maxi dresses as "mumus." Who knows that men HATE that stupid topknot thingy and yes, when they see you with one of those bubble necklaces? All they think is nasty sexual anal bead thoughts. 

I dress for men.

Why? Because I am a woman. 

And I don't think it's "beneath me" to dress to impress. 

I wouldn't be caught dead in high waisted shorts. I wouldn't be caught dead in red lipstick. I also wouldn't be caught dead in a cardigan. Because guess what...

Men. Hate. Cardigans.

What the heck is the point of a cardigan, besides covering up every desirable aspect of a woman? Cardigans scream "grandma," which I know comes off as a HUGE shock to many of you as so many woman love J.Crew.

Men. Hate. J.Crew.

Talk about taking your woman into the most boring of boringest stores. All your man is doing when you are trying on that twentieth white tee is eyeing the babe across the corner at Frederick's of Hollywood. Step outside the blogger bubble.

I know all of this may sound a little anti-feminist, but guess what...

Men. Hate. Feminists.

'Tis true. They do. Without trying to get all political, men are hard-wired to be the hunter/gatherer type. Hard-wired to be the protector, provider and safety-net for their women. Open doors, pay for the meal, provide a living...BE A MAN. (This really has nothing to do with fashion but still, feminist love cardigans.)

As in, they could give a shit if polka dots go with polka dots (they don't) or if your side pony looks natural (it never does.)

I dress for men.

You?

Edited to add: before you decide to leave a nasty comment, you may want to read my follow-up post here. I admit some wrongdoings (and stand by some of my original statements) and talk about learning from your mistakes. I still hate cardigans however.

343 comments:

  1. Yah. I think I dress for men too. I'll own it. Great post! Good luck with your shop.

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  2. My teen daughters are doing the high waisted short thing. Been there done that, never going back!
    Truth is told! I agree with you.

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  3. I hate the bubble necklaces too. I also hate statement jeans, because purple legs look weird to me.
    xoxo
    Megan @ thememoirsofmegan.com

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  4. I don't do most trends because I'm cheap and I'm not a big accessorizer. I will wear any shirt that makes my boobs look awesome. Who doesn't want guys checking their boobs out? I figure my husband likes it too, so everyone is happy.

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  5. I love you. Are we twins separated by the entire country? I dress for my husband. If he doesn't like it, I don't buy it. So in a way, you can say I dress for men.

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  6. So very true! And you just made me feel better about wearing normal clothing in a blog world full of fashionistas. I did wear Uggs which men didn't get, but that was about me being comfortable not fashionable.

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  7. Ha! I LOVE this! Only I do wear maxi's thats about the only difference between us on this! Totally just scored your black Steve Maddens

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  8. My husband hates jcrew!! Everytime I get the magazine be always will say "your grandma catalog is here. When do you get your AARP card!"

    I agree I dress for men! I don't find anything wrong with it! Dress to impress right? That saying just doesn't pertain to interviews but to marriage as well

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  9. Goodness I'm so lazy nowadays I just throw on random clothes and look like a bum :/

    I need to dress up more and expand my wardrobe! (and I wear cardigans alllllll the time to work. Yikes!!)

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  10. Tight jeans and a low cut shirt are always in style.

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  11. YES, YES, YES. Couldn't agree more!! Although I do love me some maxi dresses, I only wear them when I'm not on the prowl. Those things make home girl's ass look even more like it came from the black mother that I do not have. And bubble necklaces STILL crack me up. I like a statement necklace but none that resemble something out of Fifty Shades.

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  12. I LOVE this post - love love love!!!! I for one cannot keep up with fashion but also tend to HATE everything that's considered "in" these days. My husband HATES when I wear maxis, HATES top knots and buns in general and doesn't understand why women would ever want to wear a dress that's not skin tight. Thanks for posting this - now I know I'm not the only one!!

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  13. hahaha i heart youuuu. men hate feminists! hahaha well i do like high wasted shorts and polka dots and cardigans buuuuuuuuut i mean, i just dress for i think looks good on my body? xoxoxo happy FRIDAY!!

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  14. Clearly I'm so out of touch with blogger fashion that I had to google topknot! :) V-necks and a good bra... that's my staple. I guess that means I dress for men too. Great post!!

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  15. Haha I definitely dress for my husband. Thankfully we have the same style and there aren't a lot of "What the hell are you wearing" moments.

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    1. I agree.

      I wear cardigans because there's no other way to still wear all my cute tank tops in MN without freezing my ass off 9 months out of the year. maybe I'm engaged to an old man (he does wear boat shoes) but he likes... what's the word.. modest but classy? subtle sexy? I'm not sure. Not to say I think tight dresses are slutty.. I own a few of those too! I dress for what I like. Sometimessss it happens to fall in line with a trend. But I've struggled buying clothes the last few months because everything is mullety (shirts, skirts, etc.) or see through or looks hobo-ish. My closet is struggs.

      and I don't shop at J-Crew because OMG I can't afford that shit!

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    2. Yes! Dress what YOU want to wear beacuse YOU like it. Nothing is sexier than confidence!

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  17. Loved this post! I agree on everything (except cardigans, i get cold pretty much anywhere that has AC so i carry one in my bag).

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  18. Omg yay! So sick of seeing all these trends. I was beginning to wonder if it was just me that wasn't wearing them. I'll take jeans, a shirt with some boobage and a nice pair of heels or flip flops any day! I'm glad you said what I was thinking!

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  19. Amen. I ask my husband what looks good not my sister or friends. You , raven, are my hero for this post right here!

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  20. I'm a feminist, which has nothing to do with my style, by the way and everything to do with the fact that I think women should not be regarded as second class citizens. Thanks for letting me know men hate me.

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    1. amen micah! this blog post pretty much grossed me out. I never thought of myself as a feminist but compared to this post i guess i am now. something ive always known to be true is that men (at least the men i deem worthy of my time) love a woman who has her own personal style not a woman who tries to be sexy.. that is never sexy.. that is generic.. and MEN.HATE.GENERIC.

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    2. um, men love sexy. And I absolutely have my own personal style. It's called sexy.

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    3. thank you, Micah. this is probably one of the grossest things I've read in some time. I'm a feminist, and my very masculine boyfriend loves me and finds it sexy that I don't consider myself a second class citizen.
      It's perfectly fine that you define your own personal style in one way, and that you seek out a certain type of man, everyone has their own taste. However, when you impose your values on large swathes of society (IE an entire gender) that's when you become just another sexist asshole.
      But I guess the fact that I respect ones personal choice to dress "sexy" without deeming it negative is the difference between me, a feminist, and you, a judgmental creep.

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  21. Are you sure you aren't from Texas? You would fit in really great here with all your views. We would def. be bffs:)

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  22. Yea, I dress for myself. I buy and wear what I like. Sometimes the hubs likes it, sometimes he don't. But I'm not going to lose sleep over it. Although, I agree with you...most trends are silly, I don't do red lipstick and I would never wear statement jewelery. I honestly think most men like it when you just be yourself and are not trying to hard (I.e. Red lipstick, etc.) for instance, my husband prefers very little makeup and my naturally curly hair. Does that mean the I'm not going to wear makeup of straighten my hair now and then? No. No it does not.

    P.s. I'm not a feminist. I hate feminists. Really. I'm just big on being true to yourself and not trying to please others 100% of the time.

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    1. It sounds like you are a feminist, Jessica, but that you just don't know the definition. It's not a scary thing to believe you're just as awesome as any man and deserving of the same rights. Don't worry about the label, it's a good one.

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    2. A feminist is someone who believes men and women should be treated equally. Simple as that. And from what you said, Jessica, it sounds like you are a feminist. Maybe it's the stereotype of a 'feminist' that you hate instead.

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  23. The more I read your blog the more I start to wonder if we were best friends in another life.

    J. Crew is awful. Their clothes don't even look good on the models in the catalogs!

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  24. I dress for men too. My husband probably doesn't love it, but I do. Ha!

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  25. I dress for men too... and girls if I hate them and am feeling a little bitchy that day.

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  26. I dress for myself and for guys. I for surely check with my boyfriend before we go out, if he likes the outfit though! I don't have much for boobs so I have to rely on my booty...but you better believe I only buy jeans that make it look good!

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  27. Oh man you rock my world. I dress for me, and to look sexy for my man :) I know I can't pull off red lipstick, high waist shorts, or any other crazy fashion trend. & I definitely won't make myself look like a dingus trying!

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  28. Haha you're awesome Raven! I'm totally a grandma and live for cardigans, I'll be the first one to admit it. But my cardigans are coming from Target and Kohls, the cheap crap haha. Husband doesn't mind because I'm always cold and he gets to take them off later , haha!

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  29. Yes! Me too! In high school, I always had more guy friends than girl friends. I just didn't get along well with girls. So I was always the girl in the bootcut jeans and fitted rocker tees, hanging out in the autos class. I worked at my Dad's repair shop, I never followed fads, I drove a truck, and the only jewelry I wore was a necklace with a wrench on it. And guess what? This girl was never unwanted ;-) Seriously though, I'm married now, and I still wear bootcut jeans and tees. When I'm lazy, it's all about the yoga pants. That's what my husband likes. Fancy shoes, flowy tops, belts, jewelry... nope. He hates that stuff. I get the best compliments from him when I have my booty-hugging jeans and a nice fitted tee.

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  30. I totally hear ya on all of this but that's why I dress for men when I'm hanging out with a man or going out to the bars and then mix the fashiony trendy stuff for when I'm going to a ladies brunch or something like that. Because we do in fact dress to impress both sexes on different occasions.

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  31. Agree to 99%.
    High waisted shorts make everyone have a camel toe.
    topknot bun is FUG.
    red lipstick is HIDEOUS.
    maxis are most def mumus.
    but cardigans- I wear them. But i only wear them to work because it's fucking cold in my office and it's not really appropriate to wear tanks.
    So I can still buy cute tanks/boob shirts and just throw a cardi over it to work.
    Never even been inside a J. Crew. Not my style.
    I'll take skanky cut off shorts and a low cut top ANY day!

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    1. High waisted shorts are the absolute worst.

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    2. As a woman with large hips, I love the high waist. It straightens out my sides, rather than having a muffin top hahaha

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  32. honestly? most of the time i'm too damn lazy to give a SHIT as to what i wear- hence the t-shirt and jeans look i regular am in (hey, men like the girl next door, right? my husband seems to, anyway)..

    have you ever read the books The Female Brain and The Male Brain? hot damn, i've only read the female brain (because i'm too lazy to order the male brain.. see a pattern here?) but it basically speaks of everything you just said- and confirms that yes, in fact, as a woman we cry- so get the fuck over it, men!

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  34. Eh I still like cardigans and jcrew...I get cold easily. But I will throw on some skinny jeans and a leather jacket or low cut top with the best of em :)

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  35. you are my husbands soul mate, it's scary.
    {as I rip the sleeves off my cardi ;)}
    xoxo, bree

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  36. I checked out your shop and the first thing I clicked on were the Frye boots. Then, I saw your other picture with your son wearing them. And then I got excited and was hoping that all your other pictures had your kids modeling the clothes and shoes. And then I was sad. But it's a good idea! :)

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  37. I'm confused...what's the topknot thingy??? LOL

    I have to disagree about the lipstick...I like bold lips!! But I DON'T think it works on everyone by any means. And trends never look good on me - I just have my own Hanna style I think! :) Always just wore whatever I wanted despite what's in style. Tho, it never included high waisted ANYTHING!! And I like a tight little cardigan with one button buttoned over a lacey cami over my big old boobs, too! Hee hee - my hubby likes that, too! And he's quick to tell me when my outfits looks like a grandma, and sigh, yes I change at that point. So, I do dress for my man, too!

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    1. the topknot is the mess girls like to have their hair styled in. looks utterly ridiculous hahaha

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  38. This is hysterical! My husband hates Maxis, and calls them Mumus. But I'm obsessed with them. Mostly because they are so comfortable. I'll give them up, when he gives up all of his cargo shorts!

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  39. Anal bead bubble necklace....exactly!!

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  40. Yes!! I definitely dress for men, as well as myself. If I have a boyfriend, their opinion on what I'mn wearing completely matters. And if I'm single, I'm trying to look hot, not grandma. In the end though it does come down to what I feel most confident wearing, what I feel like I'm rocking the shit out of. Although I have to admit, I wear cardigans at the office because it's -30 in this bitch (with my space heater on) and the only guys here are the 3 old married bosses. As soon as I step outside in the 104 degree (Dallas) weather, I rip that thing off.

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  41. ha, yes you give me crap every time I want to wear a cardigan (wearing one right now btw!) I'm loving all the cardigan love in these comments <-----I just heard myself saying the 'C' word like mom does to make fun of me.....car-deeeee-gan. whatev. =) and I wear my lulu's waaay too often but at least they make my butt look good ;)

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  42. Hahahhahahhahaha

    Raven

    What the hell do I wear when I'm cold (which is always) instead of a cardigan?

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    1. hahha Hollie I'm with you on the cardigans

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  43. I'm a man. Reading for enjoyment. No comment. (Am I entering a wrong store?)

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  44. Haters unite! I think it's a tad extreme and ridiculous. I think you should dress in what makes you happy. I agree on things being trendy and overdone ie the bubble necklace because I own one and now EVERYONE else owns one it takes away the fun of wearing it. I wore red lips the other day and my husband told me they looked kissable and wanted them wrapped around ....anyhow. I think it's about how you wear the styles. Don't hate on other people because they chose to wear their hair on top of their head or shop at JCrew. If you have a sexy personality your man shouldn't give a flying shit about what's on your body anyways. So tell him to shut his mouth and remind him it's about what's under the clothes that counts.

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    1. I don't own an anal bubble bead necklace...and I'm still lost on what the hell that actually is. So, no, not EVERYONE. But, what I really wanna know is....so didja? LOL ;)

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  45. well crap. i know you're right, and i hate that you're right, because ::::face palm::: i love cardigans. there. i said it. well, likek what if you're wearing a super sexy, clingy tank underneath, and a hot necklace that hangs right between your boobs? and what if you don't actually cover up your boobs with the sweater, you let them stick out and leave the sweater unbuttoned? still no? dammit. i'mma have to rethink everything.

    ;)

    seriously, come dress me. i need help.

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  46. OMG, yes. Yes, yes, yes. (Sorry, I am tired. I cant be funny when I am tired but I so agree.)

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  47. How right you are!! Thank you, thank you for calling out that horrid bubble necklace that seems to be on every blog everywhere right now. But as for cardis...ahhh...I will never give them up! Lol. Jenn

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  48. so the only person i dress for is for ME...i dont give a fuck about anybody else...bahahah and also those bubble necklaces..gross dont own one & never will...i find it funny tho what people like to think what is in compared to whats actually in...another fabulous post from you mrs raven...so what are your weekend plans since the lake is no more?!

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  49. THANK YOU for this! seriously, all of it. I feel the same way about the beads, bun, high wasted shorts, feminists (esPECIALLY feminists). I just went on a feminist rant yesterday to my husband about how much they piss me off (the lady at the DMV gave me some bull about changing my last name and how it was such an old fashioned custom, and her husband changed HIS last name to hers. ew)

    I'll admit though, I love wearing bright lipstick (my husband hates it) but he does like cardigans haha. must be the Seattle in him though ;-)

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  50. I own a bubble necklace. Just one though! But I HATE lipstick and J. Crew, so there's that. Can we still be friends? Another stellar post, thanks for that!

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  51. Love this post - everything you are saying is soo true! I think I'm going to try and take this approach a little more. My husband likes me best in shorts and a t-shirt. He thinks that maxi dress and large flowy tops make me look pregnant - yeah, they really do! Most of all, he likes it when I wear baseball caps.. Easy enough, right!

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  52. I hear ya BUT at same time, my hubby doesn't care what I wear - he doesn't really care if I'm in a cardigan - which I love, I own like 20! - or a bubble necklace - which I own! ;) I don't think many men care much about what a women is wearing as long as they look good and are comfortable, so I wear what I like and not to please anyone else but me.

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  53. Bahaha, I love you! My mom doesn't even own anything from J. Crew. She dresses to impress even when she's doing yard work. So, I've learned from the best. I'm much more comfortable with myself in something that looks hot.. short shorts or a short dress.. I have to show off the legs since I majorly lack in the boob department. BUT, Fredrick's does help me with making it appear that I have something. I agree with the person that said all that matters is what's underneath the clothes.. but it's even better when your guy is already impressed with the clothes on top.

    Last thing.. for all the people who think that a guy should like you even if you don't dress to impress.. yeah, he should. Which my boyfriend does. Sometimes I'm not sure why he thinks I'm hot when I think I look like a hot mess. Maybe he doesn't mind it but that doesn't matter to me.. I like to keep him on his toes. :P

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  54. I dress for work, basically. I work in a corporate office so dressing for the men is kind of against hr policy. I wear cardigans regularly because it makes it easier for me in the morning. I wear cute tanks/camis under them...I HAVE to wear the sweater over them because God forbid we show a bra strap in the office. I regularly have to wear a blazer to work because VIP’s are coming. Can’t wear short skirts (though I do pull of a sexy pencil skirt). But yeah, I don’t think cardigans are for old ladies. Mine are lightweight and solid colors. Maybe an oversized cardigan with cats embroidered on it might be old lady-ish. But not what I wear. I dress for my man when I’m with my man. But from 9am – 5pm I dress for the office.

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  55. Ohhhh I love love J Crew! And I love top knots! But I agree with the bubble necklace...and the red lipstick :)

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  56. Sooo true. I love that my boyfriend is the honest type, so I know more or less what guys look for and look at. None of this, 'Oh, you look nice.' When I dress up I like to go all out, and yeah, I definitely dress for men. My bf and I do long distance and every time I see him I try to plan every detail down to matching my nail polish to every planned outfit (that's more the OCD kicking in than style sense). But wait! Guys don't care about nail polish. Do that for you. Dress for yourself but realize that you don't have to follow every trend. Your guy and others will appreciate when you pick and choose to find a style that's you...not the cover of a magazine, and NOT the mannequin at JCrew, ha! Hilarious post!

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  57. I like to think that I don't dress for anyone but I do dress for the occasion. At the beach or on my back porch having a beer, I am all flip flops, cut-offs and tank tops. At the office, I am suit,heels or biz casual which often involves a cardigan (and agree with the above poster -- God forbid a bra strap shows - the male executives may die). Nice dinner with my husband is sexy dress with boobs and/or some leg showing. Casual dinner is jeans, v-neck tshirt and sandals. Frankly, I like them all and what I wear depends on my mood and what I'm up to. I do agree that trends/styles don't work on everyone so you have to learn what works for you and your body type (and yes, sometimes even your man on occasion). Great post!

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  58. Wow, this post and comments about feminism are frightening. Feminism gets a really bad rap. I'm thankful that we had strong women in history that fought for rights- including the right to dress how we want.

    Excerpt- Caitlin Moran believes most women who don't want to be called feminists don't really understand what feminism is. In her book How to Be a Woman, Moran poses these questions to women who are hesitant to identify as feminists:

    What part of liberation for women is not for you? Is it the freedom to vote? The right not to be owned by the man that you marry? The campaign for equal pay? Vogue by Madonna? Jeans? Did all that stuff just get on your nerves?

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    1. i take some comfort in the fact that I am not the only person who finds this post to be disturbing.

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    2. Well for one, I don't believe men and women should get equal pay in ALL situations. If a woman can only carry 40 pounds back and forth, but a man can carry 80 pounds a trip, how does it make any sense to pay them the same when one is getting more work done efficiently?

      A nanny? Definitely would pay a woman more. Women have a better intuition when it comes to be a primary caregiver.

      And I like to think that my husband "owns" me fyi.

      peace love and fish whistles.

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    3. Agree on the husband thing. When you have a good one it's not a bad thing. :)

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    4. Oh ma....I LOVEEEE to think my man "owns" me too! RAWR! LOVE IT! And I even say "Yes Sir" or "No Sir" when answering him (I'm a southerner)...LOOOOVE IT! And yeah...I'm a damn good woman, but I sure as hell expect a man to haul the entire communities garbage all day and get paid damn good money for it and I don't know a woman out there that could do THAT all day. Just adding ;)

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    5. I think you're a little confused on the equal pay debate. It's equal pay for EQUAL work. Obviously if a man (or woman) does more/is more qualified for a position then they should be compensated accordingly. But if they're doing the exact same job, they should be paid the same. Sadly, that's not the case a lot of the time. If you and some random male coworker were doing exactly the same job, but you found out he was getting paid $1,000 and you only made $750, wouldn't you be a little peeved?

      I'm not even touching that ownership comment, though.

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    6. She's not confused, she has no point of reference. She's "paid" in ass slaps and, since she does not work outside the home, has no idea what is appropriate to wear in a professional environment (hint: it usually shouldn't include cleavage) which I guess is why she seems to enjoy disparaging women who seek equality in the workplace and who know how to dress appropriately?

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  59. Was against the "anal beads" till I tried one on. Bam! Love mine and want more colors, ya know variety is always good :) #analbeads #Idie #ha

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  60. You should write a book.. or make pamphlets. I like to think I dress for women; but I'm absolutely clueless on what that'd look like... J Crew?

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  61. SOME people don't understand you humor, do they Raven?!! (The feminists)

    This si YOUR blog and if what you say "grosses" people out then maybe they shouldn't follow you or read your blog...

    ANYWAY!! LOVE this post...AS always and I WISH I could shop your closet except you are too skinny...BOO!! #hellosize8 #Ihave hugeboobs #notbragging #noreally :)

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  62. Wow, some people really need to see the lighter side of life! Although you are speaking your truth from your perspective because it's your blog, this post is laced with sarcasm (just like every post of yours). Stay true to yourself and keep that wicked sense of humor of yours in every post. K? Love ya!!

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  63. Love this post. I need a revamp with my clothes so I think my Fall look will be v-neck shirts...

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    1. Gross. I looked up bead necklaces. Those suckers aren't coming near my neck.

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  64. So true! You always say exactly what I'm thinking. I like the sexy style, but you definitely have to be careful not to go overboard and look trashy I think.

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  65. like it! I dress for my husband because I want to and it's what I feel sexy in :) also anal bead necklaces? I die! you are a hoot!

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  66. Does a t-shirt and jeans count as dressing to impress men, cause that's all I got!

    Oh and FEMINISTS... Bahahaha!!

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  67. .....in a completely non-related-to-this-post-side-note: why do people who disagree or get frustrated/disgusted with your posts bother to read your blog + proceed to comment? Last time I checked, they can hit "unfollow" or not search your blog. hmmmmm

    (ps, I dig your posts - when I agree or not, they crack. me. up. keep it up, sistaaaa)

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  68. I love you speak your mind! Good for you! LOVE YOU BLOG!

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  69. You're trying to sell us your old cardigan after telling us cardigans don't attract men?

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  70. hahaha.. love this. i love how you are honest & don't really give a rat's ass what everyone else thinks! who cares about the feminists, last time i checked they could always unfollow! ;)

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  71. Love red lips. They're sexy and if I wore a nude lip my husband would divorce me. Love cardigans. Just bought a gray cashmere one that I wear with a black leather mini and my husband thinks it's so hot. You know how I feel about the anal beads and don't do top knot. Nobody likes that. And I don't dress for men....I dress for my husband and that's it. And these comments are cracking me up!

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  72. Haha... You're hilarious!

    I have to admit that I love cardigans and wear them to work often, but I am definitely not a feminist. I guess you could say, I used to be a hoe. Haha. I think if you are hot, you are hot, guys will take notice. I'm pretty sure though, guys want to see skin and don't want to see three layers of clothing. They want to see boobs and legs. You are soooo right about top knots! I've wore my hair like that before. Usually, when it is hot or don't feel like doing anything with it. Guys do not get that look at all! I wore my hair like that to work, and the guys said I was channeling my inner Japanese. FAIL. I was thinking, "Ugh. Haven't you seen all these bloggers and this hairstyle? It's a top knot? *sarcasm. High waisted shorts? Eww. I have a maxi dress that I have wore like...twice.

    Btw, we wear the same size shoes :)

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  73. If I'm a lesbian, do these rules still apply? After all, if I have no intention of having sex with men, what's the point in trying to arouse them with my rockin' bod? They may not like my red lipstick and cardigans, but my girlfriend sure likes to unwrap me like a Christmas present and see those red lipstick stains I trail down her naked body.

    As for bubble necklaces...what better way to advertise the fact that I love anal sex? I mean, honestly, dear, you can't just blurt that kind of thing out when you meet a person. Bubble necklaces are a subtle way to let everyone know. And hey, if you strike out at the bar - look at that! - you've got a handy-dandy toy dangling right around your neck. There are no lonely nights when you've got ready-at-hand anal beads!

    I never did like maxi dresses, personally, though. They're such a pain. Who wants their significant other to have to fight through yards of fabric when they want to bury their face in your crotch? Not me!

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  74. This is by FAR the best comment EVER.

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  75. I wear maxis, (As one blogger mentioned she does to above) only because they are so easy to dress up or down, to wear to any occasion. I rock the cardigan when COLD only because they jack the AC in my classroom and wearing a coat in AZ is a bit ridiculous lol

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  76. LOVE THIS! Awesome post...

    I dress for me, I guess. On the off chance that the husband and I do have a date night (because we have a two year old), then I'll dress for him. ;)

    But yeah, a lot of the things we wear just confuse men.

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  77. You're such a bish Raven!! For the record Wylie LOVES my grandma cardigans! Bahahaha and anal beads too! On the reals, I HATE those necklaces!

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  79. OH. MY. GOD. i am dying. this was perfect. although, i do love me a good topknot. don't hate. ;)
    xo

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  80. You're wrong on the cardigan (right on everything else). There is nothing sexier than a form fitting cashmere cardigan unbuttoned to show a little cleavage. Note - I said form fitting. If you do wear a granny cardigan, pair it with low rider boyfriend jeans and a fitted tank top, preferably with a little bit of a lace trim.

    Anal beads - lol.

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  81. Being a woman you think I would want to dress for men, but I totally dress for women, I feel like they appreciate the effort I put into my outfits :) At least the men I know have no idea what they are talking about. Like if they see you putting on make-up they are like "why are you putting that on" Then later compliment you and tell you dont need makeup when you are totally wearing it. They like boobs and butts and legs...I like fashion and fun and comfort :)

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  82. Hahahahaha I am seriously dying! Never change Raven! I love this and all of these wonderful comments above! :)

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  83. I love your perspective on things! =) You are SO not alone here...although, I do love a cardigan. And I'm pretty obsessed with Maxi's...but my hubby likes them, so it's cool. ;)

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  84. I heard on the radio the other day that men polled thought the ponytail was the sexiest hairstyle for women... I was surprised... then had dirty thoughts and well I got it lol

    I dress for other women mostly... ya know in a completely heterosexual way. I do however know what men like, and use that to my advantage on occasion coughcommissionsalescough ; )

    You know I like my top knot... mostly because it's the only way I can do my hair that takes 5 minutes.

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  85. aww shucks! I commented from my other gmail ... it's me it's me! unknown is me Rissy!!!

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  86. I would say I dress for myself as well as men & other females. I never give in to trends easily. I did buy a pair of red jeans last year but have only worn them once because I don't really know what the hell to do with them. Red lipstick is horrible! (I'm looking at you Taylor Swift) I don't really even wear lipstick to be honest. If I do it is nude...I probably have like 5 shades of nude lipstick. My soon to be husband is an ass man so I wear tight jeans and yoga pants a lot because they make my ass look fabulous. I don't have much going on in the boob department but that's nothing a pushup bra can't fix! I do admit to having a cardigan fetish but I get cold all the time like a 90 year old and I usually wear them with tank tops or v-necks & tight jeans of course ;) I do admit to also liking J Crew but I can't afford any of it so I just go to Target instead! I work as a bartender/waitress at a golf club so I know how important it is to dress for men. I mean, you gotta make money! I don't look at it as being a slut or anything either. They're just clothes - at least I'm keeping them on! At work anyway....haha.

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  87. Agreed about dressing for men. I always think about my clothes and if my husband would like it on me before any other thought comes into my mind. Why else wear clothes if your husband doesn't like them?

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  88. I like dressing lik a skanky hooker cause I want the attention of any and all!!! duh! I don't dress for myself, I find things that are the easiest to take off, by my HUSBAND who OWNS me! I would rather wear lingerie outside everyday. I am always standing by your side Ravie! and I actually read most of these comments and I think the woman who are "feminists" they must be wearing a burlap sack on the other side of this.

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  89. bahahaha I just died.....everything you just said is soooo true!

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  90. Loved this post Raven! Wrote somewhat of a response post of my own, and I linked to yours! :)

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  91. Found you through Jenni! Loved this post, soo funny! And you are so right! My husband hates maxi dresses. Says I look like an Oompa Loompa, haha! It is definitely important to please your man. Wear the clothes he finds you most attractive in so he'll want to take them off you later ;)

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  92. Agreed! And Amen! My body isn't a typical bloggers body anyway. I'm not ridiculously skinny, I have boobs, I look silly with a top knot. And as for most of the other trends such as anal bead necklaces - well, you know those boobs I just mentioned - they wouldn't ever work together, so I don't even try.

    Good post Raven

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  93. I'm a new reader to your blog and I LOVE THIS POST. Love your honesty and blunt words. Thanks for sharing! xox

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  94. This made me laugh so hard! This is my husband all the way!! If it were up to him, I would leave the house in a mini skirt and a bra. Completely agree with you. So refreshing to have someone who doesn't worship j crew.

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  96. so fabulous.

    everything.

    bubble necklace = anal beads HAHAHA you are a genius.

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  97. LOVED reading this! Have I sported a top knot. Um yes. Do I have bauble necklace. yes, but now I don't like to wear because everyone has one haha. Do I wear bright red lipstick. YES. hahaha I totally agree there is a difference between dressing for men and for women/ourselves. I like to think I do both. Some days I wear something I know my husband hates because I love it. Other days I wear something Trevor loves. They key is I never wear anything I don't like just cause trevor likes it... unless were talking about the bedroom... nevermind, haha. Loved this post Raven. My dad's famouse qoute... i swear he used to say this ALL THE TIME. "Women don't dress for men, they dress for other women." Now he didn't exactly mean what you are mentioning in this post, but his point, which I think is a good one and relevant to this topic, he thinks that we only dress to impress eachother with our hair and fashion etc. He says guys don't care that much and so we get all into it just to impress eachother. Did I explain that correcctly? haha Anyways, done with the novel comment now.

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  98. p.s. my dad actually loves red lipstick.... maybe it is a generational thing?

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  99. okay so i must confess, I don't know what anal beads are. But I think I'll put my bubble necklaces away now... because I'm scared to google this. Though I guess I can imagine what they are now that I own dressed up versions.


    and if I dressed just for JB I would be naked all of the time. seriously in his own words "clothes are the enemy".

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  100. Hi! I have to disagree with some of your statements, but I want to compose it to you in a constructive, non-combative way! Hooray! What I get from this post is the fact that YOU don't like top knots or lipstick, etc. And hey, that's totally kosher. It's just not accurate for you (since you're not, you know, the entire collective male populace) to declare that all men hate that too, because not all of them do. Also: the female population is not split into Women That Dudes Would Totally Bang and Bloggers. And that's all I have to say about that...have a nice day! (I CLEARLY don't know how to conclude a criticism session, haha)

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  101. This is one of my favorite blog posts you have written. Truth. All of it, especially "men hate feminists" or femi nazis as we call them in our house.

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  103. This post is really incredibly offensive. You really think that men hate women who believe in equality? Every important man in my life identifies as a feminist. Do they hate themselves? Feminism and male-identified are not mutually exclusive.

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    1. Wait what? The men in your life identify themselves as a feminist? Wtf? I'm confused....

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    2. Yes, at least my husband and close family do. A feminist is anyone that wants gender equality, and we are all pretty passionate about that. You don't need to be a woman to be a feminist.

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    3. It's ok, A.H. This comment makes it clear she's been going on about how much she hates feminists, but really doesn't know what a feminist is.

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  104. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feminism.

    "A feminist is "an advocate or supporter of the rights and equality of women"

    It is because of feminists that YOU are able to vote..women only got the right to vote 92 years ago..my grandma was alive before women were allowed to vote.

    All feminism is trying to do is make sure women are equal to men so they can enjoy the same rights and freedoms that are granted to men. Feminism also allows you to CHOOSE how you want to live. Want to have a career and get paid the same amount as a man for equal work? You can! Want to stay home and raise your children? You can! It is all because of feminism that you enjoy the life you do. Please educate yourself.

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    1. HA! Feminists hate that women "do nothing" and stay home to RAISE their own kids. What feminist do you know that you STAYS HOME and raises their own children? They let daycare do it.

      Also, as I stated above, I don't believe in equal pay across the board. Since I don't feel like typing it again, you can see my original response on this subject about to "Maria Pino."

      But this is fun. I seriously love having these debates with you feminists ;)

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    2. Your above argument about equal pay completely misses the point. The situation you described is one in which a man is being more productive than a woman, which does warrant a higher wage.
      The equal pay issue isn't about men being paid more for doing work better or more efficiently. There is a tangible pay gap between the sexes for doing the exact same jobs. This gap is smaller than many sources make it out to be, but it still exists.

      Also, Feminism has nothing to do with hating stay-at-home-moms. A feminist can be anyone - male or female, frumpy or sexy, straight or otherwise, a parent or not. Feminism is a movement that's based upon ensuring equal rights for people regardless of gender. The fact that you believe that men hate feminists shows that you don't know what a feminist is. Please, do a bit of research before making statements like this.

      Dress however you want, but don't be ignorant.

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  105. Well, I like to dress for me, so... The way I see it, a man isn't going to stop being attracted to you just because you wear a cardigan. And if a man is whining that a cardigan covers up all the best body parts of a woman, and so he thinks no woman should wear one, you've got bigger problems than whether or not he physically wants you. How does that not sound controlling to you??

    Also, I'm a feminist (how are people NOT feminists?? You don't believe in equality of the sexes...?). I wear red lip stick occasionally. I have more than my fair share of cardigans. I like the bubble necklaces. I like maxi skirts. And men are still attracted to me. Partially because I have a pretty face and unique personality, but mostly because if this post is any measure of the kinds of men you associate with, you must hang out with narrow-minded, male chauvinists. i would be a little bit sad for you if you didn't perpetrate that that ignorant, terrible mindset as well. I agree with MeargaretMead. Please educate yourself before spewing the idea that men won't like you if you believe in equality...that is wholly untrue. Patriarchy hurts everyone, men included.

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  106. I wrote a response to this post on my blog, in case you or your readers are interested:

    http://www.elliequent.com/2012/09/i-dress-for-me-you-dress-for-you.html

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    1. That's a great post, thanks for cheering me up as most of the comments on this blog are making me lose faith in womankind.

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    2. Ellie, I heart you.
      Raven, I appreciate that you are honest in your blog posts, but this made me sad. I doubt you want your two sons(I read your "About" page) thinking women deserve to be paid less than men or be treated with less respect than men. You can be ridiculously feminine and still embody the dictionary definition of the word "feminist". I know a lot of men who consider themselves feminists.
      A hetero man, in general, can be seduced without one word by a woman with ridiculously hairy eyebrows, no make-up and wearing a J. Crew cardigan over a maxi dress if she knows what she is doing.

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    3. Omg as if I would EVER teach my boys to treat women with less respect. I will teach them to treat women how my husband treats me...like a queen. ONLY IF she treats him like a King. Has to go both ways.

      I also hope to God my sons don't marry a feminist. If they grow up to be hard working men, who's number one goal is to provide a good living for their family, who value women and value the concept of their wife staying home to raise their children, then I should be just fine.

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    4. I appreciate your honesty and completely respect your opinions in this area but I think that last sentence of your sums up the key difference between your perspective and that of other commenters who identify as feminists. You want your sons to grow up valuing women and valuing the concept of their wife staying home to raise their children while those who identify as 'feminists' want their sons (and daughters) to value the concept of a woman's right to CHOOSE whether she stays home to raise their children or work to help support her family.

      Not trying to start another argument or say one view is right or wrong - that just stood out to me as a key fundamental difference.

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    5. I know feminists SAY that Stephanie, but really, every experience I have had with them is that they think women who stay-at-home and don't work at a REAL job, with real skills and a craft are giving themselves a disservice. They SAY that every women has the right to choose but when they choose to stop working in the workplace and stay home to raise kids and God forbid, take care of their husband? They turn their noses down.

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    6. oh Ellie, you're an atheist.

      figures.

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  107. Last time I checked, you didn't speak for all men and their tastes.

    As far as I know
    a)lips, red or not, work just as well as any other set,
    b)cardigans possess this magical ability to be removed,
    c)J. Crew, the model currently featured on their front page sports RED lips and a cardigan. She's hot, ask your husband.(http://www.jcrew.com/index.jsp)
    d)I truly doubt men who are feminist would go to the trouble of hating themselves and other feminists.

    As for Ellie's post above, I think her last two sentences hit the point home nicely.

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  108. Feminism is about having choices. You clearly don't want that for women, you want them to be defined by how certain men (and I assure you, not all men) enjoy them.
    Whether you choose to pursue a career full time/part time/raise your children in the home/etc., these are all feminist choices because the rise of feminism gave you a choice.
    You are certainly a very narrow minded individual, I encourage you to open yourself to other viewpoints. You would definitely benefit in the long run, as would your children.
    The negativity behind the entire premise that "men hate feminists" is so damaging, I do feel sorry for any young impressionable women that might take you seriously. Who knows how long something like that will take to undo, psychologically.

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  109. Wow. I don't know whether this post makes me angry or makes me agree. I think I do dress for men but then my feminist deep down shouts back 'no your your own woman' (and a don my cardigan once again - ha I'm actually wearing one but I am at work).

    I must dress for men, seeing as I actually bought hair extensions because I know 'he' prefers me with long hair. Ah. Sigh.

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  110. Yes if you really wanted to dress for men all you have to do is walk around naked, they prefer that to anything else.

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  111. Real Talk #1: Men love red lipstick. Thus sayeth science.

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/12/red-lipstick-waitress-tips-men_n_1511366.html
    http://www.livescience.com/5136-red-women-drives-men-wild.html
    http://www.popsci.com/science/article/2012-02/are-women-who-wear-red-more-attractive
    http://voices.yahoo.com/why-red-lipstick-sexy-7794542.html

    Also, judging from the amount of men who hit on me whenever I go out with it, I assume it's safe to say that red lips kind of amazingly hot.

    Real Talk #2: A real man will be attracted to a gorgeous girl no matter what she's wearing. Dressing to trick a guy into liking you is just silly.

    Real Talk #3: I do agree that you shouldn't wear things your man hates just because I AM WHO I AM ROAR! If your man loves to see you in blue, then wear the heck out of blue. But if you ever find yourself changing who you are just to get (or keep) a dude, then you're probably with the wrong person.

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  112. I think you have the definition of feminism confused with something totally different.

    Or maybe you don't. I guess I wouldn't be surprised.

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  113. Congrats! Just when I think the internet can't get any stupider, a come across a vapid cum dumpster such as Raven! Your nude lipstick makes you look like you have an iron deficiency and as far as your husband goes? You can have him, girlfriend. Telly Savalas called, and he wants his head back.

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    2. you do realize that stupider IS, in fact, a word, right?
      just checking.
      http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/stupider

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  114. I'm obsessed with this post Raven! Gosh you're brilliant! I TOTALLY agree! In fact, I think I'm going to write about this too, apparently you started a trend? Haha, so I'm jumping on the bandwagon too :)
    I think I have a lot to write about on this topic... For some reason southern college aged "greeks" have some fairly ridiculous trends that I'd love to highlight/make fun of :)
    Thanks for the inspiration girl!

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  115. LMAO. I'm sorry that your Coors Light-swilling husband prefers your trampy hoop earrings to a freaking cardigan. You're a joke.

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    1. actually his exact words are "big hoop earrings are trampy" so I don't wear them anymore HA!

      Actually, I just bought a new pair to wear in Vegas.

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  116. I wear cardigans and occasionally wear high waisted shorts haha. I wear them because I like them. Also, I know of men who like the things that you've said they don't - There are billions of men in this world, and I don't think they all fit into the same category!

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  117. wow, i can't believe this actually exists and women out there support this, dress for YOU

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  118. This entire blog post and proceeding comments praising what you have written are frightening. It is clear that you do not have much room for perspective and I am embarrassed FOR you.

    I am a feminist, a stay at home mother, a wife to a husband that believes I am equal in every way, and a woman who dresses to feel good about myself--not to please the man that "owns" me, as you stated above.

    Good luck with this whole viewpoint and thank god women as a whole are not stuck in the world that you have created.

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    1. oh geez, telling people that men hate red lipstick and top knots is frightening? Girl, you need to go out more. Don't you read the news about what's going on in the middle east? Now THAT's frightening....

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    2. yeah, they sure do love their feminists over in the Middle East (uh... no.)
      Actually, come to think of it, many of the values espoused here on this blog, including having your life revolve around the pleasure of a man, are actually quite popular there, as well.

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    3. oh, sweetie, you really are missing the point. Generalizing that all men hate red lipstick, that they should "own" you, and that feminists just sit and hate on women that are stay at home moms is frightening. But I see this is all just going over that little head of yours. Carry on.

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  119. You do men can be feminists too right? advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men. You can want to provide for a woman and still want her to have equal rights. I think you should do some reading up on what being a feminist actually is before you make sure a sweeping incorrect generalization.

    Also these are very broad statements that may be true for some men you know. Not as a gender as a whole. I know many men who happen to love cardigans, red lips and J Crew.

    Why would the sexy secretary or hot librarian be such a male fantasy if they hated those things? I mean really.

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    1. Sexy secretary is a fantasy in the bedroom (for a second, until it comes off) and in pornos. My husband would act like he didnt know me if I dressed like a librarian out in public.

      And why do people keep telling me that men can be feminists?? I had no idea that was even possible. I'll believe it when I see it.

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    2. You didn't know it was possible because you're a Republican.

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    3. Raven, you said:

      Sexy secretary is a fantasy in the bedroom (for a second, until it comes off) and in pornos. My husband would act like he didnt know me if I dressed like a librarian out in public.


      Nice job generalizing all librarians and inferring that we are a dowdy man-repelling profession of ladies. Really lovely.

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    4. I didn't know it was possible, but I also didn't know it was possible for liberal democrats to be so FUNNY but you all have changed my mind about that! I haven't lol'd this much in a LONG time!

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  120. I'm a feminist and my husband loves me.

    I think you're hurting only yourself by putting yourself into such strict boxes.

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    1. I'm a feminist and my husband loves me too!

      I'd like that on a t-shirt, please :)

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  121. I too dress for men, and I absolutely love it. Of course, all men have exactly the same primitive, tiny brains with exactly the same tastes and preferences, and all women are put on this earth to be sexual automatons used solely for the purposes of procreation. That's why I love dressing exactly how my husband likes! Of course, I knew it would be like that from the start when he bought me from the slave auction, and as I'm not allowed to leave the house fashions tend to pass me by somewhat. However, knowing that I'm not an autonomous conscious being and that I'm simply window-dressing means I don't have to worry about things like politics and world peace, leaving more room for thinking about how best to please my man.
    It's true men hate feminists! That's why I completely reject the concept of equality amongst genders and would be perfectly happy to have absolutely no rights whatsoever, but until then, I guess I'll have to just carry on lookin' cute! Anyway, my 15 minutes of weekly allocated internet time are almost up! Until next time!

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  123. you're probably getting a lot of hate for this post --- but I'm definitely not one to give it to you. love it! well said.

    and this is seriously everything my husband tells me when I ask.

    even my 3 year old nephew blatantly told me he didn't like my red lipstick!

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    1. there you have it, folks. we should all be taking advice on what is "sexy" to men from a three year old.
      at least the three year old in question is male, so his opinion is vastly more valuable than all of these nasty feminists.

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  124. Yeahhh nope. My guy loves cardigans, top knots (believe it or not!) and J Crew (shops there himself and was the one who introduced me to it). And since he loves me (a feminist), I'm guessing he likes them too!

    Cheers,
    Julia Topaz


    PS. He's a feminist, too.

    PPS. I hope that you can one day find it within yourself to dress yourself in a way that embodies what YOU like and what YOU value, as a strong, independent female. And if your response is "Well, what I like and value is MEN and MEN's opinions of me," then I hope that one day you will find it within yourself to like and value yourself as something more than just a wife/babymaker/pleaser of the opposite sex.

    I'm not saying it's not okay to be those things, because obviously it is. It's totally okay to be those things-- they're wonderful things to be. But I hope that you can one day recognize there's more to YOU than just your position relative to MEN. And it's OKAY to make decisions independent of that position. You have to know this, not only for your own social and intellectual well-being, but also because we need to be a generation of women who are cognizant of our value independent of how we relate to men, for the sake of future generations of girls and women.

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  125. You know what men also hate? Tattoos. They think they're trashy. You think Audrey Hepburn would have had a tattoo? Marilyn Monroe? Every great beauty throughout the ages has been free of tattoos. So much for ladylike.

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    1. lol! My husband hates tattoos.

      so there.

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    2. he must be scouting out the newer model as we speak, as you inferred in your post.

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  126. I am awestruck and sort of heartbroken to hear women say they are not feminists. You can dress any old way you want--top knot or not--but you've GOT to believe you deserve an equal playing field. That's what feminism is all about.

    How can you be a woman and not believe you deserve the same as a man?

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  127. You are officially my favorite person. I've spent the majority of my lunch break reading the comments and I'm rooting for you and everything you stand for!

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  128. P.S. My dad--a father of four girls--identifies himself as a feminist.

    If you love a woman and you care about her future, then that's what you call yourself.

    There are so many smart women speaking out on this post. It's really cheering me up, thank you.

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  129. You are the hero American female fashion deserves. Please convert every girl wearing high-waisted jeans, flip-flops, Tevas, Ugg boots and every other awful fashion item to your way of thinking.

    Thanks in advance,

    Every Man Ever

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  130. Your premise: fashion = what you believe men like, is broken from the get-go.

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  132. Wow. I've not read anything this vapid in a long time. Sincerely, a feminist whose boyfriend loves her and is also feminist and not to mention quite handsome.

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  133. Wow. Just wow.

    Lets just take away our right to vote as well, right, because did you know that men didn't like that either? Lets stop wearing pants as well! Men wern't a huge fan of that "trend" when it started. This is ridiculous. I can't believe how many people are praising this post as "heroic" or "awesome."

    I feel sorry for you. There is nothing wrong with feminists. There is nothing wrong with wanting equal rights as men. I'm not sorry that I want to be paid the same amount for doing the same job, regardless of my gender. Being a feminist doesn't mean covering yourself up all the time, or burning bra's. It's about equality. And if attracting men means shoving my boobs out all the time, wearing tight clothes, etc. then, I'll have none of it! I certainly never want to live my life by the standards that a man has set for me, I live my life, and wear what I want, by what makes me, and me alone happy.

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  134. Is this a joke blog? Written to go viral?

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  135. Her only response has been "lol, so funny" to everyone who seems alarmed, rather than engaging her readers in a discussion, so I'm going to go with "lazy blog, written for nothing."

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  136. It sincerely depresses me that this exists.

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  137. Also, as a feminist, I do not think there is ANYTHING wrong with a woman who chooses to stay home and raise her children. That's an HONORABLE and fine job. It really is. My mother did it, and it's so so so hard. It's just as much work as any job you could do, and it's just as respectable. I just think women should be given the right to chose if that's what they want to do, or if they want to get a job outside of the home. I admire any person who's a stay at home mom, as I know how tough it is.

    JSYK.

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