12.06.2012

So Sorry I Offended You, Except, I'm Totally Not.



Offend.
Webster's Dictionary defines it as 1) to transgress the moral or divine law and 2) to cause difficulty, discomfort or injury. Or in todays world, definition number 3) saying anything that upsets anyone in any way. Politically correct I am not. I refuse to hold back and censor myself because it isn't pc or because I'm scared of a negative reaction. My intentions are never to hurt someone, or to purposefully offend anyone (referring to definition 1 and 2). But to be so scared to speak my mind and walk on eggshells for the fear of adverse judgement or criticism? Sorry, but you got the wrong person.

And that's not the only thing I'm sorry for.

I'm sorry that saying "Merry Christmas" offends you. I'm sorry that the fact that I demand my child include "under God" in the Pledge of Allegiance offends you. I'm sorry that by me being a stay-at-home-mom offends you because I'm degrading what professional work for women is all about. I'm sorry that my big SUV offends you. (I'm also sorry that tests have proven it's much safer for my kids to ride in.) I'm sorry that my success offends you and I'm sorry my parenting beliefs offend you. And I'm most definitely sorry that my clothing preferences offend you. And by I'm sorry, I mean I'm not sorry at all. Not one iota.

When did it become the cool thing to be so easily offended? It's like people who have nothing to contribute or say proclaim how "offended they are" and now look at me! I have something important to say because you totally offended me! I don't care one bit that you despise gas guzzling vehicles and love your Prius. You go girl! Get your green on! I also don't care that you choose to work instead of stay home with your kids nor that you allow your young child to watch rated-R movies. I may voice my opinion when asked but I most certainly am not offended by you.

No, I reserve my right to be offended for things that really matter. Like when a judge gives a child molester a reduced sentence for "good behavior." Or when someone who murdered an innocent person doesn't get the death penalty. Or when some individual declares that the only people who still love Britney Spears are gay guys and chicks in their 30s trying to relive their youth. Offended doesn't even begin to cover it!

And there goes my little rant for the day. Any bets on how many people I offended?

ps. This post was inspired by this article - one of my favorites come this time of year.
pps. here is another fabulous post on being too easily offended.

So tell me. What offends you most?

86 comments

  1. I for one, am not offended! First of all, I can't beleive anyone comes onto your blog and critcizes. I read your blog because you are open and honest about everything! If I disagree with something you say one day, I just choose to have a different way of thinking, and come back the next day! So keep on doing what you are doing.

    Also, the Merry Christmas thing really grinds my gears. Especially because a lot of people who aren't Christians celebrate Christmas anyways. So then, if you don't believe, isn't saying Merry Christmas the same as saying Happy Holidays?

    Thanks for never apologizing, it's refreshing and I wish I could be more honest like this on my own blog!

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  2. A breath of fresh air you are! We live in a pathetically sensitive world. A breath taken too loudly can be considered offensive. Thank you for this post, now please excuse me as I hop into my SUV with my dress that may be considered a little too short :) Have a great day!

    In the words of a wise man, whose name I unfortunately cannot remember at the moment, "Offense is not given, it is taken".

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  3. AMEN to all of this!! People are so touchy these days, and for no good reason. If I took offense to half the things I hear on a day to day basis, I'd hate my friends, I'd hate most strangers, and I'd hate America in general. That's no way to live. And the whole "Merry Christmas" thing? Annoying. They MAKE me want to say Merry Christmas to them even more when they say they're offended, ya know? Like, I want to throw an advent calendar in their faces.

    As always, your honesty is refreshing. Kudos, girl! :)

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  4. Love to read your blog Raven-a breath of fresh air everyday!!!!!!

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  5. I would never drive an SUV!!! (practical reasons--I hate parking big cars and I couldn't afford to spend more than $2000 on a car anyways). But I'm not offended by people with nice cars! I love riding in my aunt's fancy SUV with heated seats--that thing's awesome!

    It's hard though--I think I have a little more of a timid personality, those "easily offended" people scare me, though I know they shouldn't. They really are like bullies, in a way.

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  6. I agree! It seems like no one can ever state their opinion without someone declaring how WRONG it is. Um, what happened to each their own? Great post. (-:

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  7. I just say, sorry for partying and move on :)

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  8. i'll be honest - i love everything offensive. the more offensive the better.
    people only give power to what they deem offensive by feeding it and making it a bigger deal than it actually is.

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  9. Amen sister! My reaction to people who are offened by everything I stand for is usually "Well I'm offeneded that you're offeneded" that usually stops 'em dead in their tracks.

    Christmas time esspecially! Our Christmas cards are always religious in some aspect, not over the top, but religious nonetheless and I've actually had friends tell me they would prefer a different card! I'm just like wtf?! I'm not going to purchase "special" cards for people who think CHRISTmas is about presents, and not the birth of our savior. Not to get all religious on ya ;)

    It kills me that people go through life thinking others have to cater to them and their beliefs, but not giving a crap about other's beliefs. Your blog is a breath of fresh air, and I enjoy it so much! I have a feeling we'd be besties in "real" life :)

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  10. Do people forget that our differences make up America and who we are.... if we are offended by everything then why integrate and associate with one another! Accept and learn to appreciate differences!

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  11. Wow. I didn't realize it, but I've been waiting for someone like you to finally say this!!

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  12. I am a new follower from the Weigands! And I just have to say. You totally made my day with this.

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  13. Ok, so you and I are meant to be friends. I couldn't agree more with your post. I'm a new reader who stumbled across your blog from the big ad space giveaway. So happy that I did. I left the working world to go back to law school, and find myself surrounded by the "social justice" types who are offended by EVERYTHING. I recently started my blog as a response to what I'm living through right now at school, and your post is just what I needed to read today. You've got me hooked, +1 reader!

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  14. I'm sorry but I'm really offended by this blog, except I'm not offended at all. See what I did there? ha. Love the post! Live your life, haters gonna hate.

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  15. You hit the nail on the head with this one. I completely agree with the Merry Christmas thing. I REFUSE to buy things that say Happy Holidays or Seasons Greetings. I believe that people are allowed to have their opinions, but I do not have the take part in those opinions. I got the cutest box of Christmas cards and some of them say Happy Holidays and Seasons Greetings... those won't be mailed out.

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  16. GREAT post, And you are spot on. It amazes me some of the things that offend people- please just live your own life. The people that are most offended are too preoccupied with others lives to realize how messed up their own lives are. What offends me? Being late and not asking me one single question about myself when meeting new people. That's about it. get over yourself crazy people!

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  17. I heard someone once say if you walk around expecting to be offended, then you will certainly get your wish, every day. Love your blog and love this post!

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  18. This is why I love your blog. You speak your freaking mind!!! I hate how anymore everyone tries so hard not to offend of upset anyone and it's so boring. I may not agree with everything you have to say but at least you have a different opinion worth reading! Keep on being real, girl!
    -K

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  19. This was a great post and I totally agree! We should always be allowed to voice our thoughts, opinions, ideas and preferences, regardless of anyone else's thoughts, opinions, ideas and preferences. There are definitely bigger issues in the world that we can take offense to, if only we had our priorities in order! Geez...

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  20. Love your post. You should never apologize for your own opinions. I may not always agree with them, but I'm happy to see that you dont shy away from having and stating them. That makes you a better person than those who hide them. And if you are weak enough to be offended by something, then you should stay home and not participate in life!

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  21. I am totally offended by this post.

    I kid, I kid. I actually totally agree. Like this morning, there was a segment on the Today show where some sorority girls dressed up in sombrero's and mustaches, and while the signs they were holding were a bit much, all of the sudden its national news and "Oh dear the Chi O's disrespected all of the Latino community!" Since when did the Latino's lose their humor? I seriously looked at my husband and said "when did the world become so damn sensitive they can't take a joke anymore?"
    I mean, come on. I'm white. I'm blonde. I'm from KENTUCKY for goodness sakes. Now tell me I haven't heard my fair share of jokes. There is a billion you could tell me from those descriptions alone. I could care less.

    This world needs a sense of humor. And a chill pill. Stat. Prescriptions of Everyone!

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  22. There are a few people in my life who are so...delicate. I have to always watch what I say around them in fear of offending them. It gets to be tiresome. I don't want to be around them. I was always taught to laugh at myself -- one of the best things my parents could teach me!

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  23. I don't think I could have said this any better. Everything you wrote here I agree with 100%!

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  24. Love it! I'm a firm believer that PC-ness has gone way too far! When anything you say can be taken as offensive to some group or culture, it's just ridiculous!

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  25. I absolutely love this! If only more people had your outlook I think we all would just be a little happier :)

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  26. Love this. Posts like this are why I follow and always look forward to reading what you post. Sorry Im not sorry.

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  27. Jessica KennedyDecember 06, 2012

    AMEN! You work hard to live the life you live. No one has the right to be offended by the car you drive or the way you rasie your kids.

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  28. I totally agree with this. People are SO easily offended and think that everything anyone says is a personal attack. Especially the anon commenters. It's like everything anyone says online is a personal jab at them. Its kind of pathetic and I don't know when everyone got so butt hurt about everything in life.

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  29. Love this!! If I wasn't a BIG fan of yours already - this post would put you back on my top list!! Love it! Love it! <3, Amy

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  30. Its almost impossible to offend me. My husband thinks its an amazing trait. He can say pretty much anything and I'm all "eh, whatever" ;)

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  31. GREAT post! I don't get offended by much, but what I do get offended by are all the idiots getting offended for no reason!

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  32. Yeah, I am NOT one of those people who are easily offended!

    xx
    Kelly
    Sparkles and Shoes

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  33. Aaaaannnnddd this is why we're friends. And my friends, I mean I stalk your blog and pretend we're friends :)

    But really, you're awesome and I couldn't have said this better myself!

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  34. soo... you asked what offends me most and all i can think of in response is: YOUR FACE! or, YOUR MOM! bahahaha totally kidding.. but i'm a 15 yo boy sometimes... really ridiculous that people would be offended by you- i mean, NO OFFENSE, but you are just a normal chick, a mom, a wife, a person living their life without really harming or affecting anyone in a negative way... and you share all your hilarious insights with us, to enlighten us and make us laugh (or to offend us, i guess..)...

    when did everyone become such a fucking pansy? figure out why you're so fucking pissed with your own life before projecting your shit onto someone else... and then, in the immortal words of sir paul mccartney: live and let die.

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  35. I GET ANGRY AND OFFENDED WHEN OTHER PEOPLE GET ANGRY AND OFFENDED. haha just kidding. like mom always said: DSFDF = different strokes for different folks

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  36. Haha I love this! I'm with you 1000%!

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  37. Amen sister!

    Merry Christmas!!!!

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  38. also, great article from Ben Stein!

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  39. As an HR Manager, I am very familiar with people being easily offended. We have to call our annual Christmas party the "Winter Event" which offends the people who celebrate Christmas. It never ends, you are always going to be offending someone. I just learned not to care anymore. LOL!

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  40. I honestly cannot think of what offends me. You certainly do not offend me. I'm not a fan of things like religion in the classroom or over the top religiousness during Christmas, but I wouldn't say it offends me. I'm not religious, at all, simple as that. I guess maybe something that does offend me is people who are overly religious and try to shove it down my throat telling me I need to be "saved", etc., etc., but maybe not is not really being offended, more like annoyed. I've heard time and time again how offended people are with my language (I might drop the F bomb a bit more than I probably should) BUT swear words DO NOT offend me so I feel no reason to censor myself (well at work I do, or at least try to) but when I'm out at a bar or the like, it's going to be "F This" and "Aw Shits" all around. If you're offended by my language, then go find somewhere else to party. I think people throw the word "offended" around too easily, like a hot potato. If they do not know how to handle something, they are instantly offended by it. I say "grow a pair" and "party on"! =)

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  41. <3 this post!! I personally am offended by people who are so easily offended. Pretty sure they're missing out on most of the fun in life!! Poor things. Lol

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  42. This is AWESOME! And so well written. This whole PC thing is one of my biggest pet peeves! Thanks for sharing! I love your blog!

    Blaire
    www.TheMarketConfidential.com

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  43. I'm not easily offended at all, but if I don't want to read something, I don't so I loved this quote: "These people are looking to be offended, choosing to be offended and choosing to stay offended." I don't see why people continue to read something if it pisses them off.

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  44. AMEN AMEN AMEN!!

    I agree with all the above.

    What offends me? Liberals. Especially liberals who are really conservatives but would never come to terms with reality because all conservatives are old rich white men. Well, except for me, since I'm a young (relatively) broke brown woman.

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  45. Ha - great post! And the Ben Stein article you linked up was great too. My husband and I were just talking about how some towns have declared that the Christmas trees in the town square must be called 'holiday trees' because the atheists put up a big stink about it. But wtf is a holiday tree? And I dare you to find an atheist that doesn't celebrate Christmas in their own home. I don't like people that make a fuss because of the principal of a matter. And I don't like it that no one in politics is willing to stand up for what they believe in - they don't want to rock the boat, so nothing ever gets done!

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  46. i am so not PC. living my life how i chose should not offend someone just as others living their life should not offend me. i was harassed one day by a prius owner because my mustang GT is not environmentally friendly and that i was killing the earth for her children. after she bitched at me for a few minutes, i told her that the plastic water bottle her kids just threw in the trash was not environmentally friendly either and went on my way.

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  47. I am so easily offended - I really need to get thicker skin. But I am incredibly offended by anyone hating on Brit Brit. seriously.

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  48. Yes! Yes!

    Preachy people offend me. I believe in God, but I don't try to convince others its the way to be. I try to live by these words: "I believe in God, that's my business I don't make it yours"

    To each his own. Ya know? I hate when people make such big deals about things.

    I mean everyone should just respect one another.

    And PS ... I cannot WAIT to be a stay-at-home-momma (which is the plan, as soon as I end up preggers eventually lol)

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  49. Girl, I admire you so much you have no idea!! You keep doin your thing and let others be as offended as they want because its your life and not theirs! And I quite honestly agree with you on errrrything. It's a tad ridic.

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  50. Guys in brightly colored skinny jeans offends me most. I know I shouldnt be offended by peoples fashion choices but I just cant help it.

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  51. Nothing.

    Well I guess except for one thing- when people fart in a elevator. Especially fat old men.

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  52. I have a a Tahoe and I'd go bigger if I could afford it. Oh and Merrrrry Christmas friend!!!!

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  53. I think it's crass that you wrote because your sister is pushing thirty you didn't think she'd ever get married. Hey, you asked!

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    1. lol! you obviously don't know me or my family personally. I'm sarcastic about ev-er-re-thing.

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  54. Raven we are the same person in this post. I love it!!

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  55. Such a great post!!!! THANK YOU! (And I'm 40 and still love Britney! HA!)

    Okay, so I'm most offended that I can't be a Christian Conservative but that others can be Atheist Democrats or whatever else they want to be. I'm also offended that I can't be proud of my anglo-saxon cultural background without people making it like I'm racist. I don't care if you're white, yellow, brown, black or something in between - everybody should be able to be proud of where they came from!

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  56. Remember.. it's all Obamas fault! Speaking against the all mighty prez is like a death sentance these days and speaking your mind seems to be more offensive then what you actually said. I'm sure if u said the sky wasn't blue u would offend someone. Everyone has been made to be so sensitive and emotional these days that someone who stands up for what they believe in is beat to a pulp for trying to throw some honesty out. No one likes to hear the truth these days!

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  57. I'm offended that you're not offended that I'm offended. JK I'm not. I do however enjoy making people feel bad by telling them I'm 1/2 Jewish when they say Merry Christmas even though I could care less!

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  58. A FREAKING MEN!!!

    I drive a gas guzzling, 3rd row v8 behemoth of a car.. and would have gotten a bigger one if I could fit it in my garage. And the reason for my big ass car is so we can haul our big ass boat to the lake every summer. Plus? I'd like to see some of these tree-hugging Prius drivers fit a 16 yr old boy with several of his friends plus football equipment. It's not gonna happen.

    What is the deal with people constantly judging people for NOT being just like them? Why can't we all just be who we are and shut up about it.

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  59. My mom owns a salon and put a Christmas tree up and she said people always comment on her nice her "holiday tree" looks. Last night she posted a status about how annoying that is to her. She also mentioned that she thinks is BS when parents will tell a family member to only buy what's on their children's Christmas list. It may not be offensive but, it's just a huge annoyance. I think it's ridiculous what Christmas is becoming. But, honestly if a small business had some kind of Hanukkah display it wouldn't offend me just because I celebrate Christmas. I'm offended that because we all don't believe the same things we should all act the same so someone doesn't get butt hurt. I drive an SUV as well. That thing is a gasaholic. But, I'll take that over a car with 4 times as much MPG. I can't drive cars. Anytime I drive our mustang it freaks me out because I can't see around other SUVs/trucks. Plus, in my SUV I've been hit by a car before and it wrecked their car and I didn't have a single scratch on mine. Sorry about the rant but, you always make the best points. I'm not sure I've ever disagreed with anything you've said.

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  60. my philosophy is that life is too short to get worked up about the little stuff. i am a big believer in people's INTENTIONS are more important than their words. now let me ask you this, are you offended when people say "xmas" instead of "christmas"?? that also seems cray cray to me. people have bumper stickers that say "keep the christ in christmas" !! i don't get it! what the heck do you care??

    also, i think bc i work in a school with a huge jewish population i just became accustomed to saying happy holidays, but i also say happy hannukah to my kids that are jewish and merry christmas to my kids who are christian..it just seems cray that if im going through a checkout line or something and someone says merry christmas that that could be in any way considered offensive.

    -- love, a very liberal democrat ;)

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  61. People are so quick to judge others - mainly because they are not content with their own life. Likely - they are jealous you do not have to work. You drive an SUV and you are a good mom. The people that "care" about how you live your daily life need to focus on their own.

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  62. I'm offended by swearing, (sorry, but I am! LOL!) violence and people that treat their children poorly in public. I mean, if they can be that way to their poor kids in public, I can't imagine how they are treated at home :(

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  63. Oh Raven, I am SO OFFENDED! NOT! I love everything about this. It takes soooooo much to offend me, I actually find people ridiculous who are so easily offended by everything. HELLO we all live in a free country, we get to believe what we believe and live how we want to live. Now, what does offend me, is animal abuse, child abuse, elder abuse, okay any abuse. Parents who allow their children to become obese and unhealthy. Rude people. Self centered people. People who don't want to work for anything but feel 'entitled' to everything [someofmyfamilymembersCOUGH]. I could go on, but I won't. I could be offending some people right now ;)

    XO!

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  64. We need more people like you in the world. That is what is wrong with America, everyone is so overly sensitive it's ridiculous. My kids as well as myself will always say, "Merry Christmas" not "Happy Holidays" and most definitely include God's name in the Pledge of Allegiance.

    This post is so great! I'm like you, not offended easily! People need to get over the fact that you speak your mind on YOUR blog!

    Keep preach'n girlfrannnn ;)

    xo

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  65. I'm a new reader to your blog, and this is great. I am not easily offended, but there are some things that bug me.

    1. Stay at home moms that think they are better moms than working moms. I respect your choice to stay home, you should respect my choice to work.
    2. Preachy people. Yes I do believe in GOD, but how I practice my faith is my choice, no need to shove it down my throat. Just because you say so doesn't mean you love the lord or believe more than I do.

    That's it for me! Have a great day!

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  66. YES YES YES! I could NOT agree more.

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  67. I am so not offended by this post that it is amazing :) You are so right!! I hate how easily offended people get now days. Especially women! I work with all women and I really have to be careful what I say because I have had it blow up in my face numerous times, and it is so stupid. For people to be offended by Merry Christmas or us wanting to say "under God" in the pledge of allegiance.. excuse me for a minute, but eff that. If they have a problem with it they can keep it to themselves. I don't agree with what everyone says, but I'm not going to make a scene about it. End rant ;D

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  68. I completely agree! Thank you for posting!

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  69. haha!!! I LOVE this post and YOU!!!!!!!

    I am NOT offended when people say "Merry Christmas" I usually say "Happy Holidays" out of habit. We celebrate every holiday under the sun in our house! lol

    I agree about preachy people too!

    People really do get offended about the SILLIEST things!!!!!! Post about whatever you want girlfriend! Your blog! I will still read it!! :)

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  70. If only everybody in this world was more like you!!! I couldn't love this post anymore.

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  71. I'm offended by people (parents and caregivers alike, I'm a nanny) who treat their kids poorly and/or full-on ignore them in public. People now that they're are things that they can do safer, in regards to child restraint safety, but they don't because they don't care. And last but not least, people who try to touch young infants ESPECIALLY if they're being worn in a wrap or carrier.

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  72. I get offended by people that get offended by you. Don't they realize that their judgments are ignorant, rude, and just plain mean? They need to start practicing what they preach!!!

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  73. I don't understand why people waste the time or energy to be offended by other people so much. Live and let live!

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  74. Awesome- love it! I have the tendency to 'offend' others quite frequently. I don't waste my time thinking about the things they say, why do they choose to dwell on what I have said? I think they are looking for reasons to not like me, and speak ill of me behind my back. To those people I say: "Get out of my life already"

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  75. I just started following and I already LOVE you!
    I just had this girl on Facebook get mad at me because I posted a status about why waiting until marriage is a good thing (of course I don't expect that to be a standard for the world) but the author was a little harsh and maybe a bit offensive. Anyway, she got all mad and told me how I am offending so many people and that I should think about the things I post, meanwhile, no one had complained about my post. I believe that everyone has the right to think what they want to think and if you get offended...sucks for you! I respect everyone's beliefs and I will defend my own when a close minded jerk tried to tell me how my opinion "offends" others. I just got so annoyed because she wouldn't drop it. I just really hope that I didn't offend all the zero people that told me I was offending them.

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