2.06.2013

On being a first time mom...

 first time ever holding a brand new baby
 
I remember vividly being handed this tiny little person for the first time and realizing, well shoot. Ok, so now what? Does this thing come with special instructions? Does the hospital staff come home with me for the first month or two? And if not, can I just stay right here in this hospital room 'til he goes to kindergarten?

There are a lot of fears that go along with being a first time mom. You are more careful, extra worried about germs and ohmygosh you had better wash your hands before you come within ten feet of my child. You hardly get any sleep as that time is spent with your ear down to his mouth making sure he's still breathing. Being a first time mom is hard work, as everything is so new.

I was so protective over my first. I remember one night, being completely exhausted, and my dad was over visiting when he told me and my husband to just go to bed, get some rest, and he would stay up with my one month old. I was so worried that something would happen that I didn't take him up on his offer. No, I stayed awake and make sure that my child was fine with my own two (very tired) eyes. Second baby? I begged my parents on my hands and knees for them to please please for the LOVE come watch my newborn so I could get some rest.

Of course, I was overly uptight when it came to my child's health. I can't tell you how many times I called our doctor for the slightest little thing. He threw up? I called the doctor. He had a slight fever? I called the doctor. He slept through the night for the first time? I called the doctor (just to brag that time).

I was also very cautious of the kind of medication I would give my kids. I know I have talked a lot about naturopathy, and thankfully, my kids never had anything too serious that required mainstream medication. I think I'm maybe the only mom whose child never once had an ear infection, but for those of you who have experienced that? St. Joseph has a product called Infants' Gas Relief drops, which work quickly to break down gas bubbles that cause discomfort. These drops are safe to use at every feeding and are free of any dyes, alcohol or saccharin (which this semi-natural momma loves!) For a $3 off coupon, go HERE to claim!

Everything that came with being a first time mom was just one big learning experience. People have asked me, "what is your advice for first time moms?" And the best piece of advice I can give? Just go with it.

Just. go. with. it.

That's all you can really do. When experiencing something for the very first time, the only way to learn is by trial and error. Oh, and my second best piece of advice? It will all turn out ok in the end. Trust me.

ps. Something I never tell first time mothers? "Sleep when the baby sleeps." This may work wonders for a second time mom, but for a first timer? Ha! I know I'm just wasting my breath with that one.

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27 comments:

  1. Gas drops saved this new moms life and sanity!!! She is a whole new - much happier baby!!! I will forever tell new moms about them.

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  2. gas drops = happy home with a newborn. i make sure i give a box or two at every baby shower. totally agree with all of the above. your kiddos are growing up wonderfully! :)

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  3. I had no idea about these gas drops! I don't have a child yet but you can bet I'll keep that in the back of my mind when I do!

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  4. Gas drops and gripe water for hiccups!!!!!! My saviors. Seriously. And I am that mother who calls the doc for everything. I'm getting better :)

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  5. Omg gas drops saved our lives those first few months! We used the Target brand, they seemed to work best for my bebe. But seriously! Every time she would eat, within 20 mins she would be all pissy b/c she was gassy. It didn't matter what I cut out of my diet, so I stopped, ate what I wanted, and then gave her drops. Our nursing experience got so much better after I discovered those drops :) and I feel ya on the sleeping. I wanted to punch people when they said that to me! Haha

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  6. My tips.....

    Don't feel bad if you can't or don't want to breast feed for whatever the reason. Don't let them bully you into it. You will waste precious bonding time stressing over it. Formula works just fine.

    Most importantly - savor every moment even if you are so tired you can't breathe. Because you will blink, and that baby will be grown. I know everyone says that and it's become cliche, but believe me, it is true!

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    1. I totally agree with you! Before I had my first, I was dead set on breastfeeding. I WAS going to breastfeed for an entire year and my child would NEVER get formula EVER. I even went as far to say that moms who formula feed "bad." (I know, I know). Just goes to show you shouldn't judge something if you haven't been there because I HATED breastfeeding. It was so hard for me. Not only could I get barely ANY milk (I sat for hours and hours pumping in vain all to get two measly ounces total) and finally after one month, I quit breastfeeding. I remember bawling thinking I was being a "bad" mom and I had so much guilt. That is, until I started formula feeding and we were both SO MUCH HAPPIER.

      And for people to say you can't bond as well formula feeding, I sat in the rocking chair every feeding while my baby sucked on a bottle and I definitely bonded with him. Needless to say, my guilt disappeared and when second baby came, I tried breastfeeding again but after one week, I said nope and both my boys grew up on formula and they are happy and healthy, and I definitely don't think I'm a "bad" mom because of it (and I learned a lesson!)

      Also, I find myself wishing at times that my kids would just grow up already! I've thought I can't WAIT til they are both in school and I can have 8 whole hours to myself! But then his 5th birthday is coming up and I look back on baby pictures and he is just getting SO OLD and it seems like just yesterday he was turning two and it makes me so sad and I remember to calm down and cherish this because one day they won't want me laying down with them at night and they won't want to crawl into my bed in the morning to cuddle.

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    2. I wanted to as well, but not only did I not produce enough milk (like you) - breastfeeding made me an emotional, hormonal wreck! I would be standing in line at Walmart (baby home with hubby) and I'd hear a baby cry - my breasts would drip like a faucet. Gross!!!!

      And yes, it's nice when you have a few hours to yourself. We deserve it!! But they do grow up so fast. Just wait til you see your "baby" behind the wheel of an SUV.... :)

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  7. So how'd you know that I'm 22 weeks pregnant and it's my first???
    oh you didn't...it's a sponsored post..but STILL.
    Thank you because all I've heard about it the horror stories, long weird nipples and granny panties that I'll have to wear for like 2 years after the baby is born.
    So this calmed me down a bit.
    Oh, and the book "what to expect when you're expecting"?
    DO. NOT. BUY. IT.
    I know that's not advice for moms but more for moms-to-be, but seriously, that shit is scary.


    xoxo
    Sarai

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  8. Gas drops were a life saver for me!

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  9. It may be scary, but it's right on point as far as being accurate. Sometimes you need to know the "scary". Being a mom is scary - and it doesn't go away when they grow up. Just a different "scary".

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  10. Don't let anyone tell you that you'll "spoil" your baby if you hold them a lot. I actually had several people tell me this. Shut the hell up, babies need to be held :) And keep a fan on in the baby's room. I swear the cool air and the sound helps them sleep. My daughter is now 6 and still uses it (but so do we in our room).

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    1. shut the hell up is a nice way to put it ha! That is just absurd, I agree, babies absolutely need to be held! and my kids have slept with a fan in their rooms since birth.

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    2. There's an old poem someone gave me right after my son (now age 19) was born.

      "Cleaning and scrubbing can wait til tomorrow. 'Cause children grow up as we learn to our sorrow. So quiet down, cobwebs. Dust, go to sleep. I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep."

      I tear up every time I read that! Hold them, rock them, love on them all you can, while you can!!

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    3. That made me sad :( but I will think of that every time one of them wants me to rock them or sit by then or lay down and watch a movie with them. Really, nothing else is more important.

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  11. My mommy tip: TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS.
    And if you are breastfeeding, lanolin is your BFF. True fact.

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  12. I don't give out advice to new moms unless asked about something specific. The only thing I tell new moms is to enjoy every sleep deprived moment because they grow up too quick! sonyadmorris@gmail.com

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  13. https://twitter.com/catholicfanatic/status/299340186221944832
    tweeted sonyadmorris@gmail.com

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  14. Love me some gas Drops! Best thing ever for a very baby with sevier colic!

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  15. I told Will tonight, "Other than the fact that a child would take care over our life, I'm not against them. I'm just scared shitless" haha

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  16. Oh, don't worry, you are a wonderful mother. Just trust your instincts.
    xoxo,
    Sierra
    Oh, Just Living the Dream

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  17. Swaddling! We got the hang out it very fast when we realized how much better my daughter slept that way!

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  18. baby wraps are your best friends

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  19. https://twitter.com/purplelover04/status/307266453307019264

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