So There Is This Lake...

8.25.2013


...and it's located in what should have been my home state.
California, come to momma.

I have always had a love affair with California.
I have family that lives in Northern CA and I've visited quite a few times.
San Diego? Don't even get me started. I puffy heart the golden state real bad.

And a little lake named Shasta put the cherry on top.
Teal blue water, temps that rivaled my jetted bath and lots and lots of family members.
Including the newest member of our family, Breezy
I first met her in person last February, when I picked her up at the Portland airport dressed as a chicken. We spent the weekend together and by the time she went home back to Sacramento, we were full-fledged bff's. Now? After spending a week with my crazy family at some RV campsite? After throwing back copious amounts of duck farts? After sleeping with me on a deflated blowup mattress in a busted tent and after experiencing what life is really like when Rob and I are together? (Hint: it ain't pretty).

Now, well now you are officially inducted into our bat shit crazy tribe.
And it's kind of like the Bermuda Triangle. 
Once you're in, you are never let out.

That is, unless you tell everyone the truth about me.
And how I really am.
And what I really look like before photoshop.

Then I'd just have to kill you.


and ps. get your boobs out of my husbands face.
please and thank you.


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The Pink Purse

8.14.2013


We went back to school shopping yesterday and the conversation at the check-out went like this:

salesperson: I love that purse you have there.
Gunner: I'm a boy and I love rainbows and hearts.
salesperson: whatever makes you happy!

Salesperson is one smart chick. And of course when Gunner picked out a purse, Colt had to have one also, so for the better part of an hour, there we were, walking around the mall with my two boys swinging their little purses. I'm about 20% positive a few people gave them double takes and maybe even a stink eye here or there, but I can't tell you for sure because I'm also about 100% positive that I didn't give a shit. I wasn't looking at other people to see what their reaction was to seeing two of the most adorable boys on the planet carrying what were clearly "girl" purses.

I mean, it's such a non-issue to me that writing that top paragraph there seems like a waste of blog space. But that's just it, it's a non-issuse to me. And for now, it's a non-issue to my boys. It's how I'm trying to raise them and so far, so good. My boys have no concept of race or social status or so-called differences in others.

And the reason is because of this.

While we were sitting at the food court yesterday, there was an employee cleaning up around us, wiping down tables, etc., who happened to have down syndrome. Being the outgoing and talkative person that he is, Gunner struck up a conversation with her and at the end, asked if she could come home with him and play. It didn't matter that she couldn't exactly respond and converse with him like he is used to, all that mattered to Gunner was that she was a person and Gunner really really likes persons (his word, not mine ;) ). Not once has either of my kids ever asked me why someone looked different than them. Not once has either of them pointed out someone who was "fat, ugly, too tall, too short" or anything other than "hey mom, look at that kid over there, can I go play with him?"

Because in the words of one really smart man,
"A person's a person..." and well, the rest doesn't really matter now does it?

However I know soon, when they get out into the "real world" aka kindergarten and such, they will come home asking questions, repeating things that they have never heard spoken in our household. They will ask me why someone said something derogatory about one of their friends. They will want to know why the littlest kid in their class is always getting picked on. And I'm sure that one day, Gunner will no longer want to take his pink purse to school because he will get his feelings hurt one too many times by bullies making fun of him.

And that breaks my heart, because my boys have the sweetest soul.
They are kind, they are accepting and they just love all persons.

But that's not the real world.
I can protect them and teach them in this little bubble for a while, but inevitably they will have to experience hurt and meanness and prejudice on their own. I can only hope and pray that I have shaped them and taught them to be strong enough to handle it, to stand up to the bullies and even more important, to stand up for those being bullied.

Oh.

And in the words of another wise persons...

"Now swing that pink purse in the air, 
and wave it like you just don't care!"*


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*lyrics have been slightly altered


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