Good Men Are Only Sex Addicts To Their Wives

5.12.2015

the face of a man who would never claim "sex addiction" ... to anyone but me of course.

As I was browsing my daily news site for enthralling inspiring uplifting and encouraging headlines (ha) I came across a story on Tiger Woods. Poor guy just recently got dumped by his girlfriend for none other than - wait for it - cheating on her with multiple women. 

Haven't we heard this story before? Oh yes, just a few years back when Tiger admitted cheating on his then-wife Elin with multiple and he means multiple women. He was sorry, he felt kinda bad, he probably wished his wife wouldn't have left him and I'm sure he would have preferred it if she didn't take half his millions but then he dropped the big bombshell...

It so wasn't his fault! He had an addiction people! A real live authentic but totally made up and laughable addiction that only the weak, feeble and flat pathetic people claim to have. He was a sex addict. Gasp! He couldn't help getting undressed and naked and flinging off lots of different women's panties and then it was all he could do to resist the charm and seduction of the female allurement until finally he gave in and let's be honest here probably had multiple orgasms because he just. couldn't. help. it. 

Let's not fail to mention that all these women he couldn't resist screwing were all considered "beautiful" in today's society. Hmm. I thought addiction didn't discriminate. Where all the ugly ones at Tiger? Oh, you weren't "addicted" to them, I see. 

Why bring this all up now? I mean, this is old news. Everyone knows by now that after Elin found out about Tiger's indiscretions (with only pretty people), she chased him down the road by foot and caused him to crash his Escalade into a tree and then proceeded to beat him with a golf club. (Also see; irony.) 

The reason I bring it up now is because of the aforemetioned news site I was reading and the new current story on there of Tiger cheating. Turns out, his and Lindsey's "hectic schedule" wasn't the reason for their demise. No, he had "relapsed" into his "addiction." His sex addiction. Because two gorgeous blonde girls aren't enough. 

But it was the comments on there from Tiger's "close friend" that had me going. Laughing in my chair like we were at a swingers convention. You have to believe me when I tell you what his "close friend" said. You have to believe me and know that I would never lie to you, and this is real, true journalism stuff with actual, accurate quotes. Ok you ready?

Tiger's "close friend" had this to say about the break-up scandal (and also referred to his recent elimination in the Farmer's Insurance Classic golf tournament in February):

"He had a relapse in the sex department. He withdrew from Farmer's. You have to understand, while it's not right, it's not really wrong either. Tiger isn't married. He doesn't really drink or do drugs. So what else does he have when he can't afford to lose again? He's allowed to find some relief. Most men would drink over such losses, Tiger has sex over it. Yes, Tiger cheated again. But it wasn't with anyone special. He really wanted Lindsey to be the one. But he blew it again. He can't help himself. He's got an addiction. He relapsed."

All together now...

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. 

Good one. 

(Might I just add, that when the "close friend" mentions that Tiger "wasn't married" as if that has any relevance to cheating on your partner, he was married the first time it happened. So, what's your point again?)

Look. This isn't really news. That people claim to have sex addiction and that idiots actually fall for it and defend it is as old as the day is long. It's normal, it's asinine, it's socially acceptable. There are facilities set up all over the country for people to go and pay exorbitant amounts of money just to be "cured" of wanting multiple warm places to put it. 

It's flat ridiculous. And let's be REAL honest for a moment, shall we?

In reality, we could all claim "sex addiction." It's human nature. To want to be with someone in a physical way that we have a connection with and to feel all the warm and fuzzies is totally normal human tendencies. That isn't exclusive just to someone like Tiger Woods. No, that is what we all feel, it's how we are made. Every single one of us. 

The difference however? The difference is that for moral, respectable, decent and honorable people, cheating is a choice, one thousand percent a choice. It's a choice that anyone on this planet - your next door neighbor, the mailman, even Tiger Woods - makes voluntarily. We all have the same temptations, that newness and excitement of being with someone we just met is the same for everyone. And we could all very well fall prey to that temptation and cry but...but...sex addition!

But we don't. You know who does? The weak ones. The immoral ones. The untrustworthy ones. The dishonest ones. The conniving, sneaky, two-timing, trustless, gutless jackasses. Sex addiction is not a disease. It's an excuse - a pretty pathetic one at that - made up for guys just like Tiger Woods to use. 

Yeah, being married for ten years, sometimes it can get a little boring, a little rudimentary. Day to day things get in the way and that excitement and newness of those first few encounters with each other can seem far, far away. You have responsibilities and baseball practices to be at and kids to feed and bills to pay. You have meetings to catch and you have a lot of things that have to be done that aren't necessarily the definition of "fun." And that's the truth. 
But you know what else you have? You have respect. You have trust. You have security. You have a lifetime partner-in-crime who will always have your back no matter what because they have proven themselves to you that they are worthy. You have someone that drops everything and spends every second with you in the hospital when you are hurt. You can have your newness and so-called "excitement" with lots of new, exciting people.

I'll just be over here with a man who has never and would never betray me. A man who wouldn't think twice about laying his life down to save mine. A man who would stop at nothing to protect the safety of me and my children. A man who thinks I'm enough for him.

And that's pretty damn exciting to me. 

19 comments:

  1. Spot on. It builds real problems when we blur the lines between terrible behaviour and addiction. We wouldn't call someone that physically abused their partner 'addicted to violence'. Yes Tiger has ISSUES and needs help but using the word addiction creates space for helplessness. I haven't been close to this though so I'm happy to be educated.

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  2. Really good Raven!! Love it.

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  3. AnonymousMay 13, 2015

    How do you know he has never and would never cheat on you?

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    1. Why? Do you know something I don't??

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    2. AnonymousMay 14, 2015

      Ohhh the trolls, let 'em starve!

      (Not the same anonymous as above ;) )

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    3. AnonymousMay 17, 2015

      I wasn't being a troll. I'm just curious. How are you sure?

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    4. AnonymousMay 20, 2015

      Do you honestly expect to know if (when) your spouse cheats on you? Of course people are going to know something you don't if (when) that happens. Duh.

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  4. Word!!!!! Nothing better than knowing you have a real man by your side who, like you said, would lay down their life to save yours. Tiger Woods is a man whore - end of story.

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  5. Great post!! Still laughing at the "close friends" quote..."But it wasn't with anyone special."...and that makes it better how??? You nailed it when you said that it's human nature to want to have that physical connection with others...it's a shame that people simply cannot be honest about how they want to live their lives. I don't condone cheating at all, not one little bit, but accept that some people out there do not want just one partner ,they want multiples. It's the honesty about that choice that is missing. Hey, Tiger, you want to screw every beautiful woman you can while you are here on this planet? Go for it! Just be honest about it. Don't make women believe your lies and have to put their lives back together after, surprise!, you cheat on them with multiple women that aren't even anything special.

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  6. The quote of his close friend is ridiculous and cheating is terrible, but addiction is real and unfortunately you can become addicted to anything. Psychological (shopping, gambling, sex, etc.) and chemical (drugs, alcohol, etc.) addictions involve differing ways of being dependent, but both follow classic patterns of resulting from someone's trauma and looking for something to make them feel better, while costing them everything in the process.

    All addiction is terrible, but I don't blame addicts. Chemical addiction obviously has more severe physical consequences like withdrawal and the risk of overdose, but most of the other classic criterion for addiction can be found in other addictions. All addicts lose the trust of their family and friends and do morally reprehensible things (stealing, violence, etc.) as a result of their condition and while I don't think I would be able to have that in my life, I don't place blame or judgment on them. I hope he gets help

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  7. If I told you, your husband has been banging two women on and off for the last three and a half years and that one of those woman called it off when you were going through financial difficulties because sugar daddy wasn't so sweet afterall, and I told you not to worry as it was just about the sex, what would be more upsetting to you
    a) that it was just about the sex
    or
    b) that there was an emotional connection between them
    ?

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    1. Very much a hypothetical question by the way. Just curious about the sex vs emotional connection.

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  8. Thank you for this valuable and informative post share.I learn many things like Sex Addiction Recovery For Life.There is also Sex addiction treatment in New York which is also informative.

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  9. Yeah you are absolutely right. The true man always looking his wife for sex. He never cheat with her in life and spent a wonderful life.

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  10. تمتع بعروض شركة فريجيدير علي شحن اجهزة التكييفات المنزلية بغاز الفريون الذي يؤثر علي حالة الجهاز و يتم توفير تلك الخدمه من خلال مراكز صيانة فريجيدير العالمية

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